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Equal Play - A little less than a happy high
komos
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Equal Play
Review from amazon.com: An unexpected bestseller, this self-help book for women who want to hook a man seems to have struck a chord with desperate American women. Fein and Schneider, whose main credentials seem to be that they are married, lay out the rules to be followed for successfully snagging a dream hunk. And these rules are hard as cast-iron--Rule Five: Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls. The idea is to return to pre-feminist mind games, exploiting the male hunting urge by playing hard to get. The result seems unliberating--Rule Seventeen: Let Him Take the Lead--but it seems to be capturing female minds. Rules Girls are eyeing the phone with steely resolve, and Rules seminars are springing up nationwide.
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komos From: komos Date: December 9th, 2004 07:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
From what I understand, the techniques work... to hook a certain type of man for a certain type of relationship. Anyone with a shred of self-reflection, though, will think it's bullshit.

Mostly because it is.
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komos From: komos Date: December 9th, 2004 07:40 pm (UTC) (Link)
I was trying to remember that one... I mean, it's so much more relevant since it was inspired by a Sex in the City episode.

It all really depends on what your definition of a "happy marriage" is. I've seen "happy marriages" where one or both partners has simply repressed anything of their own individuality for the sake of the relationship. They stay together, but because of what can only be seen as a systematic disfigurement of the soul.
cosmicserpent From: cosmicserpent Date: December 9th, 2004 05:20 pm (UTC) (Link)
I swear by my Lord of Shopping that I wrote an entry about that filthy book several years ago, but I cannot find it.
starflow From: starflow Date: December 9th, 2004 07:10 pm (UTC) (Link)
What are you talking about?! Faithfully following The Rules is how I snagged you!! ;P

I've never read it, but it looks like a good comic read. Maybe I'll check it out from the library when I check out one of Ann Coulter's books--'cause I'd never pay for crap like this.
komos From: komos Date: December 9th, 2004 07:48 pm (UTC) (Link)
You must be another one of those left-leaning traitors to America. Don't you know that if you don't buy Coulter's books that the terrorists have already won?
starflow From: starflow Date: December 9th, 2004 09:49 pm (UTC) (Link)
Well, I'm a liberal, so I HATE America anyway. I cheer on the terrorists!
komos From: komos Date: December 10th, 2004 04:31 pm (UTC) (Link)
You have used the word that must not be spoken. A word so horrible that people all across the land cover their ears upon hearing it.

We're so doomed.
cosmicserpent From: cosmicserpent Date: December 9th, 2004 08:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm going to write a book one day titled "How to Pee on Ann Coulter Books: If You Must."
starflow From: starflow Date: December 9th, 2004 09:50 pm (UTC) (Link)
Excellent! But she'll sue you for trying to capitalize on her previously published book title.
cosmicserpent From: cosmicserpent Date: December 9th, 2004 08:16 pm (UTC) (Link)
Read this JEM by Coulter... it's a winner.
komos From: komos Date: December 9th, 2004 08:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
Ah, historical revisionism, HOW I have missed you. Of course all of this exists in a vacuum. Islamic fundamentalists just got all crazy on us and started blowing shit up. For NO REASON!

I present to you, a brief history of Iran's 1953 coup, the CIA's successful attempt to overthrow a foreign government, and a democratically-elected one at that.
komos From: komos Date: December 9th, 2004 07:46 pm (UTC) (Link)
I believe you. It would make excellent fodder for the inane pop culture analysis at which you've proven to excel.

Lord of Shopping? There is such a being??
cosmicserpent From: cosmicserpent Date: December 9th, 2004 08:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
Of course there is a LORD OF SHOPPING, she co-ordinates outfits and whatnot. ;P
komos From: komos Date: December 9th, 2004 08:15 pm (UTC) (Link)
I need one. Badly.
archanglrobriel From: archanglrobriel Date: December 9th, 2004 05:32 pm (UTC) (Link)
Interesting that you post this today, I saw the follow up book being pimped at the local Barnes and Noble just yesterday.

Check THIS out...for -after- you've snagged Mr. Right:

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0743204441/qid=1102613334/sr=2-1/ref=pd_ka_b_2_1/104-9438055-5123126

So really the best way to get a man and keep a man is to absolutely and positively not be who you are in any authentic way at any point either before or after your wedding day.
Give up "unnecessary control" and "abandon the myth of equality" and peace and happiness will be yours.
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komos From: komos Date: December 9th, 2004 07:51 pm (UTC) (Link)

That way lies madness

The thing that's common to all of these books (Cooking to Hook Up included), is that the advice boils down to "give them what they want." There's nothing authentic or compelling about any of it... you just become a mirror for some presumed need or vanity of another.
cinemama From: cinemama Date: December 9th, 2004 05:39 pm (UTC) (Link)
I feel the same way about this book as I do about Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. Which is evil.
komos From: komos Date: December 9th, 2004 07:53 pm (UTC) (Link)
I feel that way about The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, but I have powers problems. ;)

You're right, though. It is evil. Pure evil.
From: corvus_coronis Date: December 9th, 2004 09:26 pm (UTC) (Link)
Well..it the Rules Girls (& the Guys who play along with that) want to get what they want that way let em, but they'll have no right to complain about the sort of relationship theyre going to get from that...
Seriously, that reads more like a dog-training manual & even then those methods would only work well on some dogs anyway.

(good advice for anyone on a date: when he or she's in the bathroom, do a quick check around for Books Like That, be they about Dating or Personal Effectiveness. Run if you find one)
komos From: komos Date: December 10th, 2004 04:29 pm (UTC) (Link)
It's the lure of the quick fix, and I think it has some appeal... at least to the blissfully unaware. It really does represent an incredibly cynical view about the value of human relations, though.
From: uruz Date: December 10th, 2004 09:15 pm (UTC) (Link)
I should go buy that book. Maybe then I'll finally land a man!
komos From: komos Date: December 11th, 2004 05:32 pm (UTC) (Link)
It reminds me of all the DeBeers commercials...

Twenty years ago, I bought your love. Today, I'll buy it all over again...
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