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A little less than a happy high
Upon watching Frida...
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komos From: komos Date: January 12th, 2004 08:01 am (UTC) (Link)
It's not the first time I have, and it probably won't be the last. Still, I feel like I need to be careful with it.

I think men are more apt to be reserved when talking about their passions or desires (or crushes, for that matter) just because of expectations that they should be. For some reason, it seems vulgar.

Is there a double standard at work here? Perhaps. I've been thinking about the differences in the way the sexes are permitted to show desire for some time now, and still haven't come up with a definitive statement. A great deal of my perspective stems from my overdeveloped reserve, though it interests me that it does seem to extend to others.

I'll probably write more about this later. For now, why is it that it's considered sexy for a woman to view Pornography when it's sad for a man?
riverbank From: riverbank Date: January 12th, 2004 07:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
"For now, why is it that it's considered sexy for a woman to view Pornography when it's sad for a man?"
i don't think i've heard that comment.

maybe cause of who's saying it. maybe because of the differnce in porn styles between women and men. i've noticed women prefer reading (if you go by the amount of fanfiction) porn. and men perfer watching porn. i have limited info on what men actually dig cause as you say men talk differently about it.
maybe its because most commercial sexual references are controled by men.
ummm this could be quite an interesting subject.
komos From: komos Date: January 13th, 2004 10:48 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm not sure that you would have... it's just something that's been kicking around in my head for a while.

It's true that most porn, and certainly the industry, is pretty wretched, but I think source only addresses part of the question. Even were we to limit the scope to altporn sites, for instance, I think that there's still a judgement that will be placed upon a man who takes interest in them that is not present for a woman who frequents them. Similarly, were we to look at something like Harry Potter Slash fiction, the judgement placed upon women and men who enjoy it. On some level, one seems more deviant than the other.

Obviously, there's not going to be a neat summary here because I think the issue is just too complex. Talking about perceptions isn't even enough, since, as you've suggested, the psychology and even sociology of erotica come into play.

I will think on this.

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