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A little less than a happy high
Some opening thoughts about sex, food, and loneliness
Last night, as I was putting the final touches on dinner, I began to feel incredibly sad. I sat with the feeling for a while, weighing whether it might be my common, everyday sort of melancholy or if it was something far more sinister. I'm not sure if I really answered that. What I did realize was that at least part of my sadness centered around not having anyone to share with.

I've long espoused the theory that, aside from wild monkey love, food is perhaps the most intimate thing that human beings share with one another. In either, you invite someone to be witness to things that are very private and very basic to who you are - your needs, your response to pleasure, your ability to find delight in the pleasure of another. Both food and sex can be delicious on your own, but both are enhanced immeasurably in the right company.

It's a type of sharing that's been sorely lacking for me for a while now. That empty space has worn me out, I think.
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clayrobeson From: clayrobeson Date: June 17th, 2004 06:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
Wow, when I think of the number of people I've fed/eaten with... I'm a food whore!!

Seriously, though, I know what you mean. I won't go to restaurants alone, because... well, it's like masturbating in public. You don't want anyone to KNOW you're eating alone.

Come visit! We'll make beer and eat good fuud!
wisdom_seeker From: wisdom_seeker Date: June 17th, 2004 06:10 pm (UTC) (Link)
From July 9th to the 12th, we will share, share and share some more. Miss you...
canonfire From: canonfire Date: June 17th, 2004 06:12 pm (UTC) (Link)

Dionysian dinners

it seems to me that you need a proper Greek symposium! And forget this Platonic love! On with the groping!

wildflowersoul From: wildflowersoul Date: June 17th, 2004 06:20 pm (UTC) (Link)
This week: you name the day, tell us what we need to buy for supplies, and we would love to have you over to delight us with your culinary skills.

While I don't think that gets to the heart of the issue, it's been far too long since you've been over, and we miss your company.
From: ex_cayetana730 Date: June 18th, 2004 06:00 am (UTC) (Link)
Ditto. You just have to email us and say "get your arses over here and eat!" and we will.
promise. We are your community.
prosicated From: prosicated Date: June 18th, 2004 04:35 am (UTC) (Link)
It still says volumes about you that you satiate your needs with relish and skill when there's no one to share with. When you find people you want to eat with, you'll be better off for knowing yourself so well.
May I, also, invite you to dinner lunch or brunch once I've gotten to Boston and Ry and I have settled in?
bootsvalentine From: bootsvalentine Date: June 18th, 2004 05:47 am (UTC) (Link)
I haven't forgotten that we're taking you to Texas Roadhouse next time we go *evil laugh*
I want your rhubarb crumble receipe, please.
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