Your post is gone now, but I'm glad I got to see it. It was heartwrenching and beautiful.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I can only hope I would be so brave facing something like this.
I'm going to state for the record that if Medicaid is restructured to the point of my having purchase of long term care insurance in order to have any hope of affording the privilege of
rotting away in a nursing home my "golden years," I want a viable legal alternative on the table. My personal choice would be physician-assisted suicide, but I'll take the right to stride into the surf like an old Irish king, sword in hand, to fight the incoming tide without having some do-gooder come and fish me out of the waves.
While I'm at it, I'm going to insist on a Viking ship burial. Screw y'all if you don't like it.
And no, selling off everything I own and/or expecting my family to pay for the government requiring an artificially extended life that reaches beyond the point where I deem it's worth living is NOT a viable option. I do not wish to be a marginally functioning subsidy for the medical and pharmaceutical industries. If Dubya and his cronies expect me to be, they damned well better figure out a way to foot the bill.