July 13th, 2006

The gentleman is always properly dressed

I was scared to go much further with it

I've created an entirely unscientific, two-part poll to try to suss out how you all think when it comes to what makes another person attractive and worthy of your attentions. I've disabled viewing of results and have screened comments, so please feel free to be as honest as you can. Whatever secrets you share are safe.

I want your stories. Give them to me.

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The gentleman is always properly dressed

A tad overwhelmed

The response to the poll has been far better than I had expected, and I want to thank everyone who has or will soon be participating. There are some great thoughts coming through as well, and I feel as though I should make some effort to respond as best as I can. Part will be through general comments in a later post, but there are a handful who deserve a quick email. It will be coming, I promise.
The gentleman is always properly dressed

My luck's like a button, I can't stop pushing it

Many of your comments regarding today's poll have addressed its apparently binary nature. While it's likely that a scaled response or a checklist would have allowed a representation of your thoughts that was more comprehensive, or at least more fair, I really wasn't looking for comprehensive or fair. Yes, everyone wants to be with someone who can make them laugh and who is honest. That goes without saying, so much so that putting the two on a scaled response doesn't really reveal anything. As someone said, "I want it all."

Well, yes. That's precisely why I asked you to choose between appealing options.

Under no circumstances did I assume that there were "right" answers or that the choices were truly either/or. The idea was to present two qualities that may be attractive in a potential mate and then to ask which was the more appealing. The options were not necessarily correlated, and I didn't ask which was more important because that would have strongly implied a value judgement. I also didn't expect that your answers would be in any way definitive or that you saw the unchosen options as undesirable.

I don't know that any approach to the question of attraction is going to be satisfactory, if only beacause you are being asked to think consciously about something that has, on so many levels, nothing to do with conscious thought. I do apologize if I gave the wrong impression or if I somehow caused offense. I had hoped to inspire thought and discussion, nothing more.

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