When he first surfaced, I did my standard meet and greet thing. I talked to him. I told him about the group and our favored format, about our mailing list and upcoming tournaments. I invited him back to play at his leisure and told him about the box of free cards that the 'older' players have left at the store to help people get started. So what happened?
He came to a couple of sessions and criticized our favored format. When we accommodated him, he criticized our decks as being "cheesey" and "not the true way to play X clan."
He's never bothered to follow up on the mailing list, and most of the time when he shows up at the store for another game, he doens't even bother to say hello.
While these wouldn't normally be that much of an issue, a couple of people feel like they got rooked in trades with him. I feel like I'm one of them, and it was made worse because I had just given him some cards outright.
He showed up tonight, looking for a game. I knew I didn't have the patience to play him, but one of the other guys took up the mantle. One game. A brief stint of playing, a quick loss, and an even quicker exit for all of us. I felt like a heel, but I get the feeling like the other players like him less than I do. I just don't trust him. At this point, I think I can say that he's managed to do something to alienate most everyone in the group, and though I feel like an arse for being this hateful, I don't know that we're not just 'grokking wrongness' in him.
So what do I do? I continue being diplomatic and engaging in the "fuck you with a smile" behavior I like so little in my folks. I feel bad for not being accommodating, and I feel bad because I don't feel like being accommodating and can't bring myself to say it outright. I've got nothing to work with, and I certainly can't make other folks like him. For now, I will wrestle with whether we've started to become elitist and exclusive.
Damn, I wish I had a better handle on this.